Coaching Q&A

March 18, 2024

Q&A: How can I identify what truly drives me.

Question: Hi Tomas, I’ve been feeling directionless in my life. How can I identify what truly drives me?

Feeling directionless can be quite unsettling, as if you’re floating without a clear destination in mind.

But it’s a common phase that many people experience at various points in their lives, often signaling a period of growth and self-discovery.


Why does this feeling of being directionless arise?

Often, it’s because we’re disconnected from our core values and passions, or perhaps we’ve never taken the time to truly explore them.

In a world filled with endless choices and societal pressures, it’s easy to lose sight of what genuinely matters to us on a personal level.

Identifying what drives you is essential because it acts as a compass, guiding your decisions, actions, and ultimately shaping your life’s path.


The key to overcoming this feeling and finding your direction lies in understanding yourself better—your values, interests, and what you naturally gravitate towards.

This self-knowledge serves as the foundation for setting meaningful goals and making choices that align with your true self.

⚙️ HOW

To identify what truly drives you, consider the following steps:

1️⃣ Get clear on your values:
Start by listing out values that resonate with you. These could range from creativity and freedom to integrity and compassion. Reflect on moments when you felt most fulfilled or proud. What values were you honoring in those moments?

2️⃣ Reflect on what you are drawn to:
Pay attention to the activities, topics, and interests that naturally intrigue you. These are the things you could spend hours exploring or talking about without getting bored. Notice patterns in your hobbies, the books you read, or the types of conversations that energize you.

3️⃣ Experiment with new experiences:
Sometimes, the best way to discover your passions is to step out of your comfort zone and try new things. This could mean taking up a new hobby, volunteering in different fields, or attending workshops and seminars. The goal is to expose yourself to a variety of experiences to see what clicks.

4️⃣ Seek feedback:
Ask friends, family, or colleagues what they think you’re good at or what they see as your strengths. Sometimes, an outside perspective can shed light on talents and passions you might have overlooked or taken for granted.

5️⃣ Journal your journey:
Keep a journal to document your thoughts, feelings, and observations as you go through this process of self-discovery. Writing can help clarify your thoughts and reveal patterns or themes over time.

⏱️ NOW

As an immediate step, take a moment to jot down a list of values that feel important to you, without overthinking it.

Next, pick one activity or interest you’ve been curious about but haven’t explored yet and make a plan to try it within the next week.

This action doesn’t have to be a big commitment; it’s about taking a small step towards discovering what resonates with you.

Finding what truly drives you is a journey of exploration and reflection.

It’s about listening to your inner voice and honoring your curiosity.

Remember, it’s perfectly okay to explore multiple paths before finding the one that feels right.

Keep an open mind and enjoy the process of discovering what makes you tick.




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