Q&A: how to overcome self-doubt and Build self-confidence

Question: “Hi Tomas, I’m struggling with self-doubt in my abilities. How can I build my self-confidence?”

That’s an important issue to address, and I’m glad you brought it up.

Let’s get into it.


Self-doubt can really put a damper on your abilities and the way you view yourself, impacting everything from career progress to personal relationships.

It often stems from previous setbacks, overly critical self-assessment, or comparing ourselves to others, which might set unrealistically high standards.

It’s crucial to understand that these feelings are common and that overcoming them involves changing both your mindset and your behavioral patterns.


To build self-confidence, focus on nurturing a positive and realistic view of your abilities.

This involves acknowledging and celebrating your strengths, setting achievable goals, and treating failures as learning opportunities rather than reflections of your worth.

The goal is to shift from a mindset of self-doubt to one of self-efficacy and resilience.

⚙️ HOW

Here are practical steps you can take:

1️⃣ Reflect on Your Achievements
Take some time to write down all your past successes, no matter how small they seem. This could include anything from completing a project, making a tough decision, or even a compliment you received. Reviewing this list can remind you of your capabilities when doubt creeps in.

2️⃣ Set Small, Achievable Goals
Break larger tasks or goals into smaller, manageable steps. Achieving these smaller goals will provide a sense of accomplishment and reinforce your belief in your abilities. Each small success builds your confidence for tackling bigger challenges.

3️⃣ Practice Self-Compassion
Be kind to yourself. Recognize that everyone has moments of doubt and that it’s okay to not always feel confident. Treat yourself as you would a friend in a similar situation: with encouragement, understanding, and support.

4️⃣ Seek Feedback and Mentorship
Sometimes, our self-doubt stems from feeling isolated in our experiences. Talking to mentors or peers can provide a different perspective, constructive feedback, and reassurance. It also helps to see that others might share similar doubts but have found ways to overcome them.

5️⃣ Continue Learning and Improving
Confidence often comes from competence. Engage in continuous learning and skill development. As you improve and expand your abilities, your self-assurance in handling various tasks and challenges will naturally increase.

⏱️ NOW

Identify one area where you feel doubt and choose one small action you can take today to improve in that area.

It could be reading an article, practicing a skill, or asking for feedback on a recent project.

Taking action, regardless of the outcome, is a powerful step toward overcoming self-doubt and building your self-confidence.

Start small, but start now!

Hope this helps. 




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